In a recent survey we found out that even if women were willing to donate their garments, they would keep quality and expensive garments for years.
The truth is, it’s really hard to get rid of clothes that hold sentimental or economic value to us. At the same time, it is easy to surrender to the urge of buying more and more, even if we have a closet full of items that we’ve hardly or will hardly ever use.
So, why do we own so many pieces of clothes? Why do we barely use them? And, why do we choose to keep the most valuable and highest-quality pieces for such a long time, convincing ourselves that one day, we will use them again?
One of the main reasons for this is our perception of LOSING OPPORTUNITIES. Every time we consider getting rid of unused clothes, our minds come up with scenarios in which we could use them in the future. However, these scenarios will never come to fruition.
Let me tell you a story:
Many women take pleasure in seeing their wardrobes full. They may not use most of it, but they enjoy the feeling of amassing a collection and enjoy remembering the situations for which they had to buy every piece. Moreover, having several blouses, dresses, jumpsuits, jackets, shoes, and bags, allows for hundreds of different combinations to wear.
There are a million reasons why to hold on to a piece, but the most common one is an overwhelming feeling of guilt: After all, the garment is new or almost new, it cost you a lot, and just the thought of throwing away that money makes you feel quite guilty.
Sometimes you purchase something you think you’re going to love, but then you don’t like how it looks on you, or maybe the color doesn’t suit you… Perhaps it just doesn’t match with anything else in your closet. It could happen that you got it following a fashion trend, but that trend doesn’t really flatter you. Or it could be that you were looking for your dream garment but settled for something else to avoid going home empty- handed.
The point is, for some reason, these clothes are in your closet now, you are not using them and, let’s be honest… you most likely are not going to use them again or at all. Personally, whenever I am buying clothes, I abide by a single simple rule: if I don’t love an article with all my heart, I take a deep breath and leave it. There is a 99% chance that if the unconditional love and excitement is not there when I buy a piece, I will never wear it.
Many women buy the so-called “must- haves” for their wardrobe, pieces like the well-known LITTLE BLACK DRESS. A black dress is a classic item that should be a part of every woman’s closet. However, I know many women who have their little black dress and hate the way they look in them. Still, they keep it because they’ve read
so-and-so’s blog recommending it as one of the things that every woman should absolutely own. Long story short, the dress suggested by the “Fashion Blogger” has been abandoned and is now just filling up space in a closet. It will take some time, but eventually women will realize they will never use that piece again, embarking in a never-ending journey to buy another piece that hopefully this time will fit her line and taste.
An extra super well-known reason to buy clothes you’ll never wear again is following THE COLOR OF THE SEASON. Upon arriving to Los Angeles, California, and for many years while I produced my collections or replenished my store inventory in the city, I would hear vendors over and over again, talking about the color of the season. Last year, Pantone announced that coral was the new fashionable color for 2020, but the truth is that this color is not for everyone. I even remember, some years ago, there was super-strong trend around neon colors, and I can assure you that I never got anything with those colors as they don’t suit me.
I believe that the first thing we must do to choose our style is to be honest with ourselves about the shape of our bodies and decide precisely what we want to hide and what we want to show.
This is what will help us make better decisions when it comes to buying, allowing us to resist trends that come and go but are not necessarily a good match for us.
Now, let’s talk about buying clothes to find the perfect match for a garment already in our closet. Even if you are good mix and matching, women tend to forget to bring the garment with them when shopping for the perfect match. When you come back home and check, the perfect companion piece becomes at the very least an “odd third wheel” and ends up feeding your pile of unused clothes.
Perhaps that discordant piece was a gift you received. You end up keeping it to remember the beautiful gesture of someone special and therefore you can’t discard it or give it away.
My point with all of this is that one way or another, these pieces have economic or sentimental value to you, and it is difficult to let them go. I know how daunting the idea of parting with them can be and that they have probably never been part of your “donation” pile.
But now our behaviors are changing and I know that in some time we will live better with less.